Sand is a mixture of particles of different rocks. So the question is :- what size particles of what rocks are best for this purpose? I would pose this question to the supplier and unless he can furnish you with a precise definition, I would pass this time. FWIW In the UK there two specs for sand (BSS 1199 and 1200), soft sand for making mortar and sharp sand for pointing. No builders supplier (including the "super" store) stock sand to a BSS spec, they just stock what is quarried localy so they can sell it cheap. If you are lucky, it might be close to the BSS mix. Which is that, when the sand is passed through a series of sieves of decreasing mesh size (I forget how many), there should be an equal volume of particles caught in each mesh. Basically so the sand particles are not all the same size. Now for your use, I would think that the particles should be of a limited size range. I would think adding sand to the epoxy would increase its life many times over, because you will be trying to abrade the sand NOT the epoxy. Davis in SC, wrote that the epoxy surface got less slippery with age, cos the top coat has got abraded?, first signs of wear?
Frank
P.S. Just remembered TV transmission towers are painted with a paint that contains mica flakes to afford grip to the riggers working on them.